What is gossip?
According to the dictionary, gossip is “idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others.
Wow when you really look at the definition, it seems pretty nasty, no?
For me personally, I didn’t think gossip was an issue, but boy was I deceived.
I didn’t realize how entangled I was in gossip until yesterday. There was a situation. I was told information I shouldn’t have been. I repeated said information to a person involved and they whole thing blew up. It was nasty. Ugly. Sad.
I felt like a wretched person. Dirty. Wrong. Ignorant.
I hate feeling like that. Out of this situation came some good though. It caused me to really examine myself and figure out why I get involved with situations that aren’t mine to begin with.
You see I was raised in a family where gossip is second nature. It wasn’t uncommon for close cousins to come over and sit at the table with my mom, drinking tea and sharing the town gossip. I never questioned it because it was how I was raised.
Also, I was raised in a very small town in Michigan, where EVERYONE knows EVERYONE else’s business. Good. Bad. And Ugly.
So you see I was raised in a culture of gossip, yes, but I’m no longer living in that culture and even if I were it’s NOT right. Although I didn’t realize how wrong it was until this most recent situation.
I’ll be honest I’ve never studied the Bible pertaining to gossip because quite frankly I didn’t think it was that big of a deal, until yesterday!!
Yesterday’s situation had me reeling and examining my own heart. After some harsh but truthful words from my husband. I headed back to the gym to do some cardio, I needed to clear my head and spend some time confessing my sin and asking God to forgive me.
Now I need to walk forward from this situation, learning and figuring out how to live without gossip.
For starters, I needed to see what the Bible says about gossip.
Here’s some nuggets from God’s Word:
28 A perverse person stirs up conflict,
and a gossip separates close friends.
13 A gossip betrays a confidence,
but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.
I think this one, Proverbs 11:13 really struck a chord in my heart. I don’t EVER want to betray a confidence again and I most certainly want to be a trustworthy person!!!
So with all of this said, I declare, this is who I am I am NOT a gossip!!!!
, I am on a new path to health….physical, spiritual, mental health.
I DO NOT, repeat DO NOT want to be told ANYTHING that does not directly pertain to me, my life, or my family. IF you choose to discuss anything outside of these guidelines, I will as nicely as possible, ask you to refrain yourself. IF you proceed or persist you will be removed permanently from my life. You see, I have to take some strong action because this is a sin that I greatly struggle with. I never want to feel that distant from God again, ever!
So I ask, please do not put me in this situation. I’m a pretty easy going person and I love knowing about you personally…..it’s the social worker in me. BUT from this day forward, I will NOT be asking you or strangers ANY personal questions about yourself, so do NOT volunteer it to me. Thanks!